👑 Get On Your Throne, Queen: Crown Maintenance

Boundaries, Burnout, and Becoming the Version of You That YOU Love

“You can’t pour from an empty crown, sis. Even royalty needs rest, prayer, and a skincare routine.”

Let’s be real:
Being strong all the time?
Is a scam.
Being everything to everyone?
Will have you cracked, crusty, and crying in the bathroom over your last mini body butter.

There was a time I wore burnout like it was part of my uniform:
✔️ Wife duties.
✔️ Mom duties.
✔️ CEO duties.
✔️ Caregiver.
✔️ Cook.
✔️ Therapist.
✔️ Free Uber.
✔️ Inspirational quote machine.

Whewww chile.
But who was showing up for ME?

🧖🏽‍♀️ Self-Care Ain’t a Luxury — It’s a Survival Tool.

I had to learn — painfully — that if I don’t pour into myself, I’ll have nothing left for the people I love.

So now?
I protect my peace like it’s my last jar of whipped body butter.

💼 Crown Maintenance Checklist:

✨ Non-Negotiables I Live By:

• Quiet time with God – before the phone, the emails, the chaos. Just me and the One who gave me this throne.

• Daily affirmations – because the world will try to define you. But I remind myself:

  “I am chosen. I am covered. I am capable. I am Queen.”

• Skin and scalp care – because when I look good, I feel good. Period.

  My locs don’t just grow — they speak. They tell the story of survival, growth, and every sacred scalp oil session I’ve earned.
  From retwists to deep hydration days, my crown is tenderly maintained, because it carries my whole legacy.

• Saying NO without guilt – no explanations, no overthinking. Just “no.” That’s a full sentence, boo.

• Check-ins with myself – “How do you really feel today, sis?” And I answer honestly. Even when it’s messy.

💬 When the Crown Feels Heavy...

Some days the cape is dragging and the glitter don’t sparkle the same.
And on those days? I rest.
Not quit.
REST.

Even queens need naps, okay?

Rest is resistance.
Rest is sacred.
Rest is how we keep showing up with softness, not resentment.

✨ Queen’s Note:

“You don’t earn your worth through exhaustion.
You are worthy right now, as you are. Moisturized, loc’d, and loved.”